Why sharing your personal story publicly is essential?
Posted on December 19, 2012 by Comingout coil
Until today, I couldn’t explain clearly why i did it.
Thanks to the gilist and Maya, I watched this pure and beautiful speech of Lana Wachowski receiving the Human Rights Campaign Visibility Award gave me a clear answer: “there are things you do for yourself and things you do for others”
In December 2010, Aya and me were working on”Chaos”, a trans-media performance with video, music and theater though which we explored questions of identity, social definitions, individual liberty, freedom and equality. We interviewed lots of people about the secret they were afraid to share publicly. We wanted to change the definition of “Coming out” in wikipedia on a more universal level, not necessarily exclusive to the LGBT world.
The press wanted to write about it and of course about Aya and me being a lesbian couple in Israel so in January 2011, I came out publicly in a big newspaper called “7 days”.
The visibility is a complex feeling. I am the one that opened the door, I gave the authorization to people to enter in my private world, in my closet but when I realized thousands of people read my edited story, I felt like a product in a store, I felt like strangers entered my secret zone and it caused me even more trouble with my parents who wanted to keep secret my homosexuality.
Few month ago, a girl came to us in a bar and told us she saw the article with her parents in “7 days” 1 year an a half ago and it helped her to came out to her parents that day.
If my story helped one person I never met to get out of the closet and be able to breath outside, it was the right thing to do.
In june 2011, Aya and me opened the door to our personal story even more. We filmed ourself and our first short movie “please love” came out. We continued filming and in June 2012 a longer version came out : “Home is you“. Through this film, I wanted to talk about taboos such as same-sex marriage, post-nuptial depression, the use of antidepressants, and rejection of children by their parents, in a very simple and intimate way. I came out in many areas as I am.
If you are ready to share your personal story with all the consequences to your private life, it is the right thing to do.
If the price you have to pay worth helping strangers feeling they are not alone and that there are lots of others dealing with the same issues, you should share your personal story.
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