Posted on December 4, 2012 by Comingout coil
Translated by Adi Avigail Cohen
אנחנו עשינו ברית ללא מילה. ביקשנו מהרב לעשות את הטקס רק בלי החיתוך.
I came out of the closet in relation to my choice not to circumcise my son.
I heard about this option a long time before I was pregnant and it was clear to me that I will not hold a circumcision ceremony for my child.
When I was pregnant with my first child it was a girl and I was very happy that I didn’t have to deliberate.
My next pregnancy was a boy and I began to be very fearful- how will it be, how will his life be and how will my choice affect his life, will I cause him pain and cause him to be alienated?
My partner was very clear that we won’t circumcise him. It made it easier for me because I think that if I had to choose alone I don’t know what I would’ve done.
Also, because he was so clear on the subject I could allow myself to ponder and question the issue. The week after he was born was very hard for me.
On the one hand I couldn’t imagine circumcising my son but on the other hand I had many fears- the reaction of my family, I have a brother who is religious, to share my decision with them and to deal with their reaction and criticism and all the fears that I had in me that they also pointed out. The society we live in is very masculine and in the army the men are naked around each other.
He’s 3 years old now and I don’t think about it since and he’s not aware of it yet.
But I think the time will probably come when we will have to deal with it and see how we will talk to him about it.
I thought about it that when he will have sex with someone he will have to let her know beforehand that he isn’t circumcised so that she won’t be surprised.
This thought squeezed my heart with sadness.
But my friend told me that one time she slept with a guy and he told her before that he had a small dick and it made her feel more comfortable and liberated, she could tell him about her complexes with her breast, it was something that enabled a more open conversation.
Yes, it really make me feel better.