Posted on August 3, 2012 by Comingout coil
אנחנו עשינו ברית ללא מילה. ביקשנו מהרב לעשות את הטקס רק בלי החיתוך.
Translated by Adi Avigail Cohen
so, actually, we didn’t circumcise Tomer. We had the ceremony but without the circumcision. The Rabbi who wed us came and we asked him to hold the ceremony but without the cutting, because the spiritual connection and the religious texts were very important to us. It was a bit hard for him but he overcame it with courage. The ceremony was very moving but without the circumcision. And my parents paid for it, it cost them 1000 shekels. And when a year passed we shared with them… after my father had a whole series of pictures of Tomer naked, we told them that Tomer had not been circumcised. And he was in shock, he couldn’t believe it. His first reaction was complete silence, he couldn’t speak. After a few months he tried to convince us to circumcise Tomer, but of course it didn’t work.
We thought about it a lot before and we came to the conclusion that this decision is an intimate decision and it belongs only to the core family unit. It is true that the public is used to talking and deciding over other peoples genitals. But we came to the decision that it was nobody’s business, until this moment that you’re filming me… But at the beginning it’s an intimate subject that belonged to us and we don’t need to notify people about it. Some people understood it and some didn’t, like my father. But if someone can take pictures of an uncircumcised naked child and not realise it then why make him go through that pain?Share on Facebook